Very often, bullies are themselves suffering from low self-esteem and lack of confidence. They may suffer violence at home. In other cases, they may be reacting to painful changes in their lives, for example, bereavement or divorce. They may want to seek attention or to appear in control.
Whether bullying is verbal, physical, or done online, aggressive, threatening, or deliberately hurtful behavior is an unfortunate but very real problem that can happen in any school, even among young school-age children.
By being educated about what bullying is, knowing how to spot the signs of bullying, and learning what to do if your child is affected by this behavior, parents can be prepared to address bullying if and when it happens. While most parents believe that they would know if their child was being targeted by a bully or bullies, the fact is that bullying, especially as kids get older, can be hidden or less visible.
A child who may be a victim of school bullying may be reluctant to tell his parents out of shame or fear. But many kids who suffer from school bullying may display some symptoms common to victims of bullying behavior. It’s possible for parents to be unaware that their child is dealing with bullies; this is why it’s important to know the signs.
Clues that Your Child May be a Target of School Bullying
1. Not wanting to go to school
2. Complaints of headaches or stomachaches
5. Lack of self-esteem
6. Sudden drop in school performance
7. Trouble sleeping or eating
8. Sudden aggressive behavior or displays of temper
9. Conflict with siblings or playmates
10. Repeated loss of or damage to his personal belongings
11. Unexplained injuries
If you see any of these signs, or if your instinct tells you that something is bothering your child, talk to her right away. Be clear in your own mind about what bullying is -intentional aggressive behavior that can be physical or verbal, and can take the form of cyber bullying. Get as much information as you can, talk to your child teacher and friend circle.